Developmental Coaching by Martin Shervington

Author:Martin Shervington
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: coaching, mentoring, coaching and mentoring, nlp, developmental coaching
ISBN: 9781780921815
Publisher: Andrews UK Limited 2012
Published: 2012-11-22T00:00:00+00:00

Session 5

States, sub-personalities and the self

Do you recall how I said the last session was a long one? Well, session 5 could be a lot shorter in the written form. Having looked at how a person develops through the levels of consciousness with their associated adaptations, this session looks at the states, emotions and feelings that a person may have and how a coach can relate to them. It may sound “back to basics” for many a reader but as you are building a broader map, you may start to see them rather differently. I personally find by the fifth session myself and the coachee are rolling along well- the relationship is allowing the process to occur in a very natural fashion.

So to clarify and recap, the levels of consciousness can be seen as relatively stable ‘structures’ that tend to endure over time and then, if all goes well, evolve into higher order structures or levels. At each of these levels exists a series of ways for adapting to life. These adaptations are ways for the individual to manage themselves when they have a certain structure of consciousness. But what has not been considered are the states, emotions and feelings that may be present, and from that, what a person actually feels. These states are different to emotions, but it is from them that emotional states come. Some states can be described as background states such as an aching back, or a general pleasant state of the body. These can be exhilarated states as much as they could be depressed ones; bu if we enter into a more depressed state that lasts, we are going to find that our performance is reduced. Often, we don’t return ‘that important call’, we don’t persist at moving towards our goals, and we are generally not consistent in our efforts. On the other hand, it is when we enter states that are well motivated and focused that people have the most optimal states - there is a higher level of commitment and enthusiasm for the direction that the person has chosen. As the self is complex, there is not just one state that we reside in - the state can change dependent on circumstance. So, in this session we work with the coachee to make them more aware of the states they tend to be accessing day to day.

Interestingly, the personality often has many states within it that are at different levels of consciousness, and many are included within ‘as if’, ‘what if?’ and ‘what what if?’ In the same way that adaptations are related to levels of consciousness, states also have an intimate developmental relationship. This is important for the Developmental Coach, as the support offered to the coachee is more appropriately directed if the state of the coachee is understood - in other words, you need to know where they are coming from. Even though it is a temporary state rather than a level of consciousness/stage of development, the coach can help the individual move into a better state.

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